Bisexual online chat
It’s certainly a sentiment worth challenging, but it’s likely to be a waste of your time and energy to get into a discussion about body politics with a near-stranger online.
If this had come from a friend or an acquaintance or even from a first date IRL, that might be an ideal springboard for you to challenge the notion that “curvy” is somehow the opposite of “beautiful,” but as it is, I think you should go with your first impulse and move on to someone else.
” and “wouldn’t it be better if he, well, not denied that part of himself but gave that nice girl I told you about, the Smiths’ daughter, a call sometime? And yet queer people exist, and thrive, and come out, and date, and have fun, and commit to one another, and form beautiful, strengthening communities.
It’s not all persecution and suffering, I promise you.
On the other hand, I really want him to be happy in a heterosexual relationship.
I know that the choice is his and his alone to make and I’m being supportive but societal judgment/gay-bashing/targeting IS real and I fear for his safety.
You cannot protect your adult son from all the pain and prejudice in the world.
Your son is as aware as you are—likely more aware—that homophobia and biphobia exist. That’s not to say that you are likely to start lobbing slurs at him, but through a hundred ways both direct and indirect you could successfully communicate to him that you’re “not disappointed, just worried” and “doesn’t he realize that this is going to make life more difficult? This world is persistently, sometimes violently, anti-gay, anti-bisexual, anti-trans, anti-gender-nonconforming, anti-queer.The other thing you get to do is let go of your dream that your son will be happy in a heterosexual relationship.